Do Christian Moms Experience Burnout?

If you have found yourself asking that question recently, my guess is that not only are you struggling with it, but you're also concerned about whether something is wrong with you. Maybe you're worried that you're not being faithful enough in your daily devotional time or digging deeply enough into the Bible. Perhaps you think there is something you're not doing well enough or enough of, and that you just need to figure out what to fix so that you stop feeling burned out.

Have you been telling yourself, "I'm fine," in the hopes that just saying that will calm you down and make everything all right? Have you been repeating that phrase in your head like a mantra while, deep down, your soul is saying, "I'm not fine"?

Maybe you're a mom who had to deal with a toddler meltdown at 7:42 AM, realized your coffee was all gone by 8:00, and by 9:00, you couldn't feel God or even your own breath.

If this sounds like you, listen to me: you're not broken. You're depleted.

Is Burnout Normal?

Absolutely, burnout is normal! Especially for moms, regardless of the age of your children. You're trying to do your best at being a great mom and raising great children. When you add the high expectations you have of yourself, the moms you see on social media, and the people you observe when you're out and about, it quickly turns your mind and body into a pressure cooker. You look at the carefully curated lives of those around you and forget that what you see isn't their true day-to-day life; you're just seeing the highlight reel.

With all of that input, it's only natural to feel like you're not measuring up at all. You might think your kids are missing out on having the best childhood possible because you're not giving them 1000% every day. You may feel there is more you can do for your children, more you should be for your children, let alone being a better example of what it means to follow Christ and love others the way He loves them.

Whew! Did you just feel your chest tightening? I sure did! That is a pressure cooker that no one should be in, and you need to get yourself out as quickly as possible!

Stop the Burnout Now

Whether you're on the edge of burning out or you've been running on fumes for months, there is a way to stop what is happening. You can quit running on caffeine and guilt, and start showing up as the mom you know you were called to be.

What's the secret? Well, it's not a secret; it's just something that may be hard for you to do.

Stop.

You need to stop.

You just need to stop.

If you struggle with getting your brain to be quiet and making your thoughts stop racing, focus on the peaceful picture of that bench by the lake. Look out your own window at a favorite tree or plant, or simply close your eyes and picture your favorite place to go.

Once you have that image secured, focus on your breath. Take one deep breath in, hold it for three seconds, and slowly release it. Repeat this two more times.

Now, as you get ready to take another deep breath in, say these words as you inhale: "Lord, I need you." As you breathe out, finish that sentence with whatever is your biggest need in this moment.

This simple act is called a breath prayer. You are being very intentional about praying with the rhythm of your breathing. It helps to remind you that God is the One who put breath in your lungs and continues to give you everything you need for life, including the oxygen that is so easily forgotten when your respiratory system functions on autopilot.

If it's hard for you to recognize the wired and tired feeling once the day gets going, try practicing breath prayers before your morning coffee. As you listen to the coffee brewing, stand in the otherwise quiet of your kitchen and pray. If your kids seem to get up with the rooster, then find another routine you already have that you can tie breath prayers to—like when you wash your face, while you get dressed, or during the moments of quiet in the car after school drop-off.

Make time for yourself each day so that you can talk with God, give Him your burdens, and receive His peace.

Embracing Forgiveness

As we navigate through the challenges of motherhood and life, embracing forgiveness becomes essential. Forgiveness is not just about letting go of anger; it's about freeing ourselves from the burdens that weigh us down. When we hold onto resentment, we hinder our ability to connect with God and others.

Consider this: What if forgiving someone could lift that heavy weight off your shoulders? What if it could bring you closer to the peace you seek? Forgiveness is a journey, and it starts with a simple choice.

The Power of Letting Go

Letting go is an act of courage. It allows us to move forward without the chains of past hurts. When we forgive, we open our hearts to healing and transformation. This is where true freedom lies.

Finding Strength in Community

Surrounding ourselves with a supportive community can make a world of difference. Sharing our struggles and victories with others who understand can provide encouragement and strength. Together, we can uplift one another and walk this journey of forgiveness hand in hand.

A Call to Action

I encourage you to take a moment today to reflect on any grudges you may be holding. Ask God to help you release them. It may be a gradual process, but every step counts. Remember, you are not alone on this journey.

In conclusion, as you navigate the complexities of motherhood and life, remember that you are not broken; you are beautifully human. Embrace the journey of healing and forgiveness, and allow God to guide you toward a life filled with peace and purpose.

You are worthy of this transformation, and I believe in you!